Should I stay or leave my job or change career? How to weigh up. These questions keep millions of people awake at night, feeling stuck and tossing and turning with indecision about what to do. Its a process to weigh up the scale of choices and options.
But there is no better starting point than with courage to ask yourself the honest ad hard questions – and to allow yourself to answer without judgement. Self protection, fear and delusion are some of the biggest causes of career misery and indecision. So in your quietest moments be reflective and listen to the competing voices by being honest with yourself.
And check into your “WHY” you do what you do, why you make the decisions at the core of your self – dig down hard and have a hearty review of BRAND YOU.
And in asking and answering these questions be aware of the 3 ways we process information our Head, Heart & Gut.
Our Head is full of financial, cold commercial type data. Our Heart is full of the human relationships, how we impact others etc. And our Gut is where the gold lies to connect what is our truth and knowing. And unfortunately most people ignore their Gut with detrimental results. Listen and “feel” how your gut responds in any situation/question.
Most professionals and executives want similar things from their careers to a greater or lesser extent. 90% of people I interviewed when I ran a recruitment agency shared they want to be happy, challenged, be respected, learn, be inspired with good managers and opportunities etc.
But that’s just “top line” – what does challenge look like for YOU, what does a good manager look like for YOU ? And I assure you that everyone has their own bespoke reality of those answers. Dig deeply for your personal reality as you need to define every element before you evaluate where you are at.
- Do I make a difference ?
- Am I challenged?
- Am I trusted and respected?
- Am I paid well /fairly ?
- Are my ideas encouraged and implemented ?
- Do I actually enjoy the work I do / the industry ?
- Are there pathways for development ?
- Does the job align with my future goals ?
- Did expectations = reality (of a new job/company)
- Do I feel involved in the business ?
- Am I appreciated and valued ?
- Do I have a good mentor/s to learn from ?
- Is the environment great or unpleasant?
Rationalise, Justify, Reassure
Now lets take evaluation “ up a notch ” to get real clarity if its a Yes or No Do you constantly try to RATIONALISE, JUSTIFY & RE-ASSURE yourself about your current situation?
Notice in life that when someone is over explaining or extenuating their reasons, a little voice in us goes “hmmmm, something doesn’t feel right here, I don’t trust this” !
If you keep having to RATIONALISE, JUSTIFY & RE-ASSURE yourself and others about WHY you stay in your current job or company or pursue a career you may find dissatisfying now, you know in your Gut that you are probably in the wrong place.
Because IF you are doing this constantly, you already have the answer to whether you “Should Stay or Leave”!
If you decide its time to leave or change careers you will need to powerfully crank up your strategy and take on a proactive marketing mindset.
You only have one life and honestly there is no joy in misery – for yourself and friends and family around you.
Are you are ready to step up and out to reassess your value and career positioning – whether that be in staying in your current company, changing jobs or careers? DARE have a range of programs that will offer lightbulb clarity sessions and tools to get the scale in balance. Head over to our careers services section: